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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Thinking about writing your own wedding vows? It's a tremendous undertaking, summing up your love, dreams, and promises to your partner in a few short minutes.

Overwhelming as it can be, it's well worth it: It's a chance to tell your story, give guests a peek into what makes your relationship tick, and share meaningful words with the person you love.

There are many different ways to write wedding vows. You can make them traditional, playful, short, or long – there is no perfect formula.

I understand it can be intimidating so here are a few tips for writing your wedding vows to get you started:

  • Make a list of the things that you love about your spouse and read them aloud. Mention little things that you notice on a daily basis or things that stand out to everyone about them.

  • Recite a favorite poem, song lyric, or passage that speaks to your relationship. This will be something you will cherish from then on forever.

  • Promise to never take your relationship for granted. Remind them that you will continue to be grateful for their presence in your life and choose them every day.

  • Share personal stories. It's so much more interesting for friends or family to hear about your odd quirks and raw personal moments. “Guests want to hear vows that are real,".

  • Go after laughter. The ability to make your significant other smile and even laugh out loud during your ceremony will serve you well in your marriage.

  • Write up to three drafts. Take a few days—even a week—to give you and your vows some space. Go back and reread them up to three times, but try to stop there. Continuously rewriting has its own challenges.

  • Don't wait until the last minute. Plan to have your vows written three weeks before your wedding. Trust me: You'll be thankful for the rehearsal when those wedding-day jitters kick in

  • Embrace sentimentality. This isn't the time to worry about being corny or cheesy. "If the words are heartfelt, then they're not cheesy,"

No matter what you choose to say in your wedding vows, make sure that they come from the heart and reflect your feelings for your spouse.

These words will be remembered by everyone, so make them count! The most important thing is that you mean them from the bottom of your heart and are willing to stand by them forever.

Angela Salzano


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